God Himself arranged the first marriage!
Test 9 : Am I SINGLE?
Matthew 19 : :: a person must leave father and mother,
4. And He (Jesus) answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,'
5. "and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?
This statement of the Lord Jesus has three parts:
:: a man must be joined to his wife,
:: the result of leaving and joining is that they become one flesh.
Today we will continue to examine the second part of this important statement by asking the question:
Are You Single?
The first kind of joining we do in life is to our parents and brothers and sisters.
As we grow into our teen years, we form bonds outside our family and begin to find our own identity.
Later in our lives when we are married, God means that the bond between husband and wife will be the strongest one. God means that we should not have this kind of joining with anyone else. This is one of the reasons he created sex: because one of the things having sex with your spouse does, is that it creates and maintains this strongest joining bond God intends to exist in marriage.
Consider what the word of God says here:
|I Corinthians 6 :|
18. That is why I say to run from sex sin. No other sin affects the body as this one does. When you sin this sin it is against your own body.
19. Haven't you yet learned that your body is the home of the Holy Spirit God gave you, and that he lives within you? Your own body does not belong to you.
20. For God has bought you with a great price. So use every part of your body to give glory back to God, because he owns it.
In order to make this foundational bond with our spouse, a person MUST be single.
That's because it is a fact that not all unmarried people are really single!
:: Individual and distinct
:: Not divided
If you are unmarried, then by law it is possible for you to marry.
However, if you are physically and/or sexually involved with, or have deep feelings for one person, and plan to marry another, then don't fool yourself.
It will not work!
Therefore it is useful to ask yourself the following questions:
:: Have I been physically and/or sexually involved with anyone within the past year?
:: Do I take responsibility for my life, or are my calamities and challenges always someone else's fault?
:: Do I still hate or love a previous spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend.
If you cannot live without sex, you are NOT single and you will probably struggle to be faithful to your spouse when you do marry. Deal with the reason why you cannot live without sex before you consider marriage.
You need to speak the truth to yourself about this in order to be truly single.
If your problems and calamities are always someone else's fault, you have not yet taken responsibility for your life. When you come to the place where in your own mind, you are the one responsible for the direction of your life, only then are you beginning to be truly single.
Others may have helped you go down a wrong or unwise path, but you alone are responsible for the course your life has taken. You need to take responsibility in order to be truly single.
If you still love or hate a person with whom you were previously involved - for example if you are divorced - you are certainly not single even though you may be unmarried. Therefore before you can even think of forming another relationship and 'moving on with your life', you need to become un-entangled from that person in your past. You need to do this in order to be truly single.
True Love means
always acting with the highest good of the
other person in mind.
Father, please help me to be sober in my thinking so that I will be able to assess accurately whether I am truly single.
Father, if I am not truly single, help me not to keep on fooling myself that I can make a lasting commitment to another person.
I look to You to give me the wisdom I need in this very important matter,
in Jesus' name,
Next installment tomorrow, God willing!
See you then, and meanwhile,
Have a great day walking with Jesus,
4 This is the story of the creation of the sky and the earth. When the LORD God first made the earth and the sky,
5 there were still no plants on the earth. Nothing was growing in the fields because the LORD God had not yet made it rain on the land. And there was no person to care for the ground . . .
7 Then the LORD God took dust from the ground and formed a man from it. He breathed the breath of life into the man's nose, and the man became a living person.
8 Then the LORD God planted a garden in the east, in a place called Eden, and put the man he had formed into it.
9 The LORD God caused every beautiful tree and every tree that was good for food to grow out of the ground . . .
10 A river flowed through Eden and watered the garden . . .
18 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is right for him." . . .
21 So the LORD God caused the man to sleep very deeply, and while he was asleep, God removed one of the man's ribs.
Then God closed up the man's skin at the place where he took the rib.
22 The LORD God used the rib from the man to make a woman, and then he brought the woman to the man.
23 And the man said, "Now, this is someone whose bones came from my bones, whose body came from my body.
I will call her 'woman,' because she was taken out of man."
24 So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one body.
25 The man and his wife were naked, but they were not ashamed.
(New Century Bible)